5 Books That Shaped Who I am in Relationships and Beyond

And Surprisingly, They Are Not Relationship Books

Krys Ghislaine
6 min readSep 19, 2022
Books That Shaped who I am in Relationships (Photo by KGB)

A little while ago, I came across a post by E.L. Byrne, in which she listed out a few books that changed her views on Relationships and Sex. Of course, this got my brain thinking about that very thing. What books have really shaped how I view relationships, sex, and beyond? The books that came to mind surprised me, because not one of them is defined as a relationship book. Instead, they are books that helped me grow as a person, shaped my outlook on a number of topics, which ultimately laid the foundation for my relationships. While this post contains no affiliate links, I do hope you will check out a few on your own time, and perhaps even share in the comments section at the end a few books that shaped your relationships and beyond. So, in the order that read them, let me share my list of not relationships books that shaped me.

Book 1 — A Skeleton in God’s Closet by Paul L. Maier

I grew up with a fairly religious upbringing, which included both a Presbyterian family life, and a Catholic school education. For some reason, neither of these two faiths seemed to place much value on providing a relationship framework for anything other than that of your God. When I lost my faith, I felt…