From Monogamous, to Non-Monogamous, and Everything in Between

After spending the first 25 years of life knowing nothing outside of monogamy, followed by nearly a decade of non-monogamous exploration, I hope to impart one key thing: and that is that every relationship is valid, so long as you get to choose it. Yes, you read that correctly. The…

Instead, It Put the Ugly Side of Humanity in the Spotlight

It’s been 84 years… Ok, it’s only been 18 months, but serving customers beer during the pandemic has not been the fun experience I was hoping for, and I am exhausted. I have always regarded sipping beer on a patio as such a great experience, and by extension basically begged…

My Sex Positive Initiative in Normalizing Sex Based Conversations

In my ideal world sex would be a natural part of adulthood, free from shame, stigma, and taboo. Further that we would acknowledge all facets of sexuality, gender, relationship norms, and the like as part of the human experience, with the freedom to ask questions, and receive educated guidance. Bodies…

But Learning to Express Them Takes Work

What do “don’t be a baby”, “why are you always so sensitive?”, or “just man up” all have in common? They are all phrases we have heard from people who love us. And in my case, I almost loved them all the more for trying to make me a less…

Because All Relationships End

We have all sorts of do’s and don't s when it comes to dating. Some are personal choices born out of trial and error, others are the clichés of our world like “don’t sleep with someone on the first date”. There are plenty of blogs and articles that teach how…

Being a Woman in the Industry

“As I sit here, crying into my coffee, reading all the stories of sexual harassment in the craft beer industry, I am tired, and exhausted. Sexual harassment has been a part of almost every single career and job I have had in my lifetime, and let me tell you, seeing…

And Men, You Can Too!

We can all agree that consent matters. Asking for, and giving consent before engaging in any sexual activity is the gold standard. Sex positive writers, educators, ambassadors, etc. have done an exemplary job of putting information into the world that communicates how, when, and why consent is so important. And…

And Why Caution Should be Used with the Term

When I embarked on my first open relationship, over a decade ago, I had no clue what I was doing or how to navigate it. Nothing about what went on that first year would be considered ethical by anyone’s standards. There was zero foundation in my primary relationship, so every…

Asking the Tough Questions

Relationships are not stagnant. They grow, evolve, and change no matter how desperately we may wish they would remain in the same state of bliss that found you first declaring “I love you”. We can blame temptation, new information, boredom, ourselves or even our partner, on shaking the foundation of…

Spoiler Alert: This is a Myth

I had a man tell me the other day that “writing about sex is easier for a woman than for a man.” He continued by saying women get a free pass to say whatever they want whereas men are not able to have a voice. Apparently, woman have a unique…

Krys Ghislaine

Krys is a sex positive blogger, writer, and a lover of craft beer. breakingawayfrommonogamy.com.

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