Creating Ground Rules and Boundaries in Non-Monogamy
The world of non-monogamy is as vast as it is wondrous. Filled with an expansive amount of relationship variations, sexual fantasies, and experiences to explore it can be difficult to know where to begin or how to get started. And while rushing head first into all these new experiences may sound exciting, let me be the first to say, trial and error is completely overrated. That is where creating boundaries and general ground rules can help before you start meeting people, and get to the sexy fun.
If you read my first piece on bringing up non-monogamy for the first time with a partner, you should have a clearer picture of what you and your partner want. But what about what you don’t want? Figuring out your ground rules and boundaries before you dip your toes into any non-monogamous situation will help keep you safer, happier, and make taking the next step, actually putting yourself out there easier. Had I known this before my first experience nearly 10 years ago, it would have saved me many tears, heartache, and prevented a great deal of the general uncertainty and ambiguity I experienced. If you’re not quite convinced this is necessary, let us ask, why not just use the trial and error method?
Why Talk About it?
Monogamous relationships very rarely have conversations about boundaries or ground…
