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Finding Your Person
A Guide to Falling in Love of Sorts
It is no secret that trying to find people to date is difficult! As someone who spent nearly a decade doing nothing but trying to find my people, during my foray in non-monogamy I can tell you that the gambit was in fact run, many times. And the thing is, while dating in an open relationship was beyond frustrating at times, the truth of the matter is that the risks of going home alone simply weren’t there. I was able to be as picky and choosy as I wanted to be. I could choose fun, fling, or even friend, because quite frankly, the stakes were different. I write that with a little tongue in cheek. What I really mean, is that if a date went badly, I wasn’t as likely to feel bummed because I had someone to come home to. Whereas when dating monogamously, it really stings when you invest so much time getting to know someone only to find there is zero spark, or worse. And you now have to start all over again! And how the hell does one actually do that?
The reality of how bleak the dating pool really has become really hit me in the face when my primary relationship fell apart. I was in a complete state of flux. I knew where to find like minded non-monogamous folks, but I had lost touch with how to find my person, which I knew I didn’t want to find in the open relationship sphere. So, I did what almost every single person does now a…
