How to Start Conversations in Non-Monogamy

In person and Online

Krys Ghislaine
12 min readNov 23, 2019

Some people are natural extroverts, and can walk into a room of strangers with ease; full of charm, charisma, and wow you as they confidently approach anyone that they desire. They seem emboldened by the gift of gab, no matter what medium of communication they are faced with. Let me be brutally honest in saying, I am not one of these natural extroverts. It took a lot of trial and error, and a few great mentors for me to overcome this hurdle into non-monogamy. It’s all well and good to figure out where the non-monogamous people are hiding, but if you don’t know how to open up a conversation, well, let’s just say, your going to be missing out on a lot of sexy adventures. Building up the confidence to start a conversation with strangers has strengthened every aspect of my life, both personally and professionally. And if you are really ready for a challenge, try to open a conversation with a stranger wearing barely anything. Trust me when I say that every introduction I have made since then seems like a cakewalk. But that’s a story for another time, let’s get down to the subject at hand, opening a conversation with other non-monogamous people.

But before we can address how to begin a conversation, we have to first ask ourselves why opening a conversation with a stranger is so tough. A few key things I hear from the…