Safe Sex and the Sexual Challenges in Non-Monogamy

The sexual landscape is constantly changing, and if you, like so many out there are delving into your first non-monogamous adventure, you may be feeling a little overwhelmed at having to have that safe sex talk, or thinking about sexual obstacles. Things have probably changed since the last time you were out dating, and let’s be honest, having sex with new people, or more than two, brings with it some unique challenges. So rather than discovering everything out the hard way, let me share a few things that will better prepare you for sex outside of monogamy.

Getting Tested

While this may seem like the most common-sense place to start, it is often overlooked, until of course you begin to suspect something may be wrong or you get asked about it. We have a tendency to assume that as you have only been with one person for X amount of years, you must be fine right? Wrong! Before starting your first non-monogamous adventure, get tested, and make a plan to make it a regular part of your life. Depending on your sexual activity level, this could entail yearly, quarterly, or even monthly testing. If you are uncomfortable asking for a full STI panel from your family doctor, there are amazing clinics that specialize in testing, (Planned Parenthood for example) and there are even a few online companies that now provide tests in a box…