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Sexual Compatibility Before and After Non-Monogamy
And How to Get the Compatibility Back
I grew up believing that my soul mate, would fit me like a puzzle piece both emotionally, and physically. When I set forth into the dating world, I quickly grew disillusioned by this seemingly romantic ideal. Partner after partner, I felt like I had to mould myself to them, either by a personality shift, or by compromising something in the bedroom department. I thought this give, was part of being an adult, in a real relationship. Having accepted that there was simply no perfect person out there, I was able to rationalize and embrace the idea that I was complex, and it would take multiple people to satisfy me on a physical level, well, and emotional but we shall leave that component for now. For the point of this article though, I want to take a deep dive into a few things I have learned about sexual compatibility before and after non-monogamy.
Fantasies VS A Sexual Need
Before we really get into things, we must first get on the same page with regards to where a fantasy fits VS an actual sexual or relationship need. Over the years, I have been approached by many people who view non-monogamy as nothing more than a superficial way to get some extra strange. It’s a common misconception that I am going to leave as just that, an…
