The Emotional Drop

And How it Affects Everyone, Not Just the Non-Monogamous

Krys Ghislaine
8 min readAug 21, 2022
Perrine Bridge: Twin Falls (photo by KGB)

There is a phenomenon that people in non-monogamy are quite familiar with (at least in my many conversations with people), and that is the emotional drop that occurs after a really great experience, usually sexual in nature. If you’re in a monogamous relationship you can be forgiven for never hearing about this phenomenon because quite honestly, it just hasn’t needed much attention or even a label, well, until now. Times are changing, and after spending a few years in isolation, or with restrictions placed on our daily interactions something puzzling is happening, we are feeling a strange void and more specifically are feeling negative and really bummed out hours or sometimes days after having interactions with others. In the past, we could chalk this up to something mild, and even overlook it all together. But in the wake of our renewed interactions what used to feel unimportant is starting to have a big impact on our relationships, communication, and our mental health. So, let me bring a concept that I have dealt with for over a decade in my many non-monogamous interactions into the mainstream consciousness: The Emotional Drop.

What Exactly is An Emotional Drop?

Well, simply put, it’s the balancing out of emotions after we experience something…

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